When in Rome…

When in Rome, (DON’T) do as the Romans do!

As we departed from an Italian airport, snow-capped mountains and a pristine view bid us good bye.  My mind went back over 2000 years ago when the Roman Empire ruled, not only in Rome, but Italy, and much of the known world at the time.  I’m sure there was not the same view as there is and was today.

Rome was trying to gain control of the whole known world.  And, they were successfully accomplishing this.  They were cruel in their approach, as force and domination were their Modus Operandi,  (standard operating procedure).

While trying to gain control of the world, one of their greatest emperors, Caesar Augustus, was trying to assure that there were no threats to his rule.  Between 4BC and AD1, Jesus Christ was born into this world.  When Caesar heard of this birth, he sent men to find him, hoping to snuff out his life.  God intervened through angels, wise men, and shepherds, to make sure Jesus was kept alive.

For the next twelve years, Jesus was reared by his carpenter father, Joseph, and birth mother Mary.  Nothing else is known of him, until at the age of twelve, his family went up to Jerusalem for their annual Passover worship.   When all of the families were departing, his parents didn’t notice he wasn’t with them.  After a short time, they noted that Jesus was nowhere to be found.  They returned to Jerusalem to find him, their twelve-year-old son, teaching teachers, Scribes and Pharisees, scriptural truths and principles.  Mary and Joseph were astounded that their son was doing this, as were the religious leaders.

Jesus next is noted when he began his earthly ministry at the age of thirty.  He took Israel, and Rome, by storm.  He taught truths that were not heard before.   He said to love all mankind, even your enemies.  He said to give to those who gave nothing in advance or return.  As it says in Scripture, he turned the world upside down (in living styles and practices).

Unfortunately, instead of the religious leaders and Roman government welcoming this, they began to seek ways to drown out his teaching as well as snuff out his life.  Even one that should have supported him, Judas, one of his disciples, and those who should have been blessed by him, wanting his teaching stopped, and the only way to do this was to kill him.  The religious leaders paid Judas to betray him, allowing them to believe they could contain and control this religious teacher.

After Jesus was betrayed, he was taken to Pontius Pilate, and was eventually ridiculed and tortured, prior to being sent to his death on the cross.  By crucifying Jesus, like other criminals, the religious leaders and Roman rulers thought they had stopped him for sure, and they did, for three days.

His death was not the end, but really just the beginning!  Sundays became the first day of the week since that is the day Jesus broke out of the tomb, guarded by Roman soldiers and blocked by a huge stone.  Our Easter celebration is due to the fact that Jesus rose from the dead after three days, allowing us the opportunity to personally accept Him as Lord and Savior.

The Colosseum was a great staging location for sport:  chariot races, horse races, and men showing their athletic and war accomplishments were just a few of these types of sports.  Unfortunately, in ancient Rome, death had become a form of entertainment.  They would consider these sacrifices to their gods. Especially was the Colosseum used for gladiatorial contestants.  What once started out as competition became bloody and unkind.  People didn’t have anything productive to do.  They took negative joy from hurting those who were unable to defend themselves.

Because of Jesus’ teaching, as history continued, the Romans began persecuting the Christians in the Colosseum in Rome.  Christians were made to be martyrs for their belief and faith in Jesus Christ.  They were either tortured by gladiators or torn apart and eaten by lions and other animals. This did not deter them from remaining faithful to what God had promised them, eternal life in Jesus Christ.

The word Christian came about as a derogatory term.  The word literally means “little Christs” and was initially meant to demean people who lived like Him.  When they appeared to live like Jesus, they were degraded in this way.  As time went on, the Christians took this as an empowering term, and welcomed it, for to be recognized as one who lived like Christ was an honor.

So, what should we do differently than the Romans? Rather than try to snuff out Christian truths, consider them God’s truths and live according to them, not in contrast to them.   When we walked upon the Coliseum, it was easily noted why it is considered one of the wonders of the Ancient, and Known World.  It took six to eight years to erect this building, which was intended to help with the glorification of Rome.  The construction began in early AD70 and was completed a little before AD80.  A building that was to assist in the beautification and glorification of the empire known throughout the world ended up being corrupted.  Initially, it was used to host chariot races and there was even a means to flood the lower portion of the structure which allowed for boat battles.   The joy of seeing sport was evident.  However, instead of continuing along these lines, they became corrupted by wanting to see Christians killed and harmed.

What did these followers of Christ do?  They suffered the persecution as a means and ways to bring glory to their god.  God says, in his Word, “Blessed are you when you suffer persecution for righteousness’ sake.”  How do we do that?  When folks are unkind, be kind.  When folks don’t give to you, give to them.  When folks tear down when they speak, you build up.  What could have continued to be a wonderful means of sport became a gruesome means.  Our mouths are created in such a way that through words we can do wonders to help encourage and strengthen folks.  Or, we can be cruel and hurtful.  As Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Just as we consider the Colosseum, and what could have been a beautiful edifice used for years of recreation and competition, we now think of it as one of death and destruction.  So, don’t do as the Romans, and use something that was initially meant for good and destroy, but use what was meant for good, and keep returning good.  Our tongues and words can bring healing and joy, or can bring hurt and disappointment.  Don’t do as the Romans…keep doing good!

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Running Well

On a mission trip I once undertook, I had the distinct privilege of touring the “gateway to India” in Mumbai.  The city was originally named Bombay while Great Britain was in control of the country and city.  After India was able to secure their independence, the folks in Bombay wanted to identify their “new” city under their Indian rule, and coined the name Mumbai.  They didn’t want to continue to be associated with the “old” way of life but wanted to be identified with their “new.”  Therefore, they “put off” their old title and “put on” their new.

As runners, and/or those who exercise, we know what it’s like to exert, and get a perfectly clean set of clothes dirty.  When we are done with the exertion, we don’t remove the dirty clothes, clean up, and then put them back on. Rather, we remove the dirty, and put on clean.  In essence, we are removing the “old” and putting on the “new.”  When I was a high schooler, my mom used to tell me that I got in shape getting my athletic clothes dirty while she got in shape getting them clean!

Colossians 3 shares the importance of putting off the “old” and putting on the “new” as well.  Prior to man trusting in and living like Jesus, it is quite normal for him to be angry, bitter, hold grudges, gossip about others, and retaliate unkindness to those who are unkind to them  Too often, we reciprocate to others what is occurring to us.  It’s quite easy to be nice to those who are nice to us, and kind to those who are kind, etc.  Conditional love is just that, a condition rather than intentionality.   Unfortunately, circumstances are not always in our favor, and when we are hurt, we too often are tempted to hurt in return.  If someone raises their voice in anger, we are tempted to do the same.  When someone bad-mouths us, we tend to want to do the same in return.  What God, and our world, needs is for us to do is to show Christlikeness no matter what.  So, instead of living like the “old” person, having conditional love and returning wrong for wrong, we need to “put on” compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, patience, and forgiveness.

Running or cycling early in the morning or later at night requires a light.  The light is definitely the most notable when it is the darkest.  Thus, it Is when we “put on” godly characteristics and “put off” the old.  You and I know how and when we act unkindly, and deep down inside, we don’t like it.  But, our flesh is often weak and we respond according to those around us.

God tells us to be like Christ, and the best way to do that is to follow His example and commands.  One great motivation for exercise is setting a goal, and the great satisfaction of meeting that goal makes all the work worth it..  Rather than only setting distance and time goals, let’s set goals for our lifestyle as well.  Be known as one who “puts off” anger and unkind behavior, and one that “puts on” compassion, kindness,  humility, meekness, patience, and forgiveness.  Run hard and live right!

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Blog 20141220 It’s Apparent . . . It is better to give than to receive.

I’m thankful that God initially gave freely!  Through that example, I am challenged often to remember to love as Christ loved, and give as Christ gave!  When God entrusted His Son to come to this earth, to be born to die, He was giving us what we didn’t deserve, but desperately needed—salvation!

To further that thought, we learned how to love Him, because He first loved us!  I would encourage you to remember that as you parent.  It’s not the easy times that we fail to love; it is the discouraging times that we fail to love.  And, if not careful, we may find that we display our love when obedience is evidenced, and withhold it when it is not.  Christ didn’t do that; in fact, he kept loving, and “where sin abounded, grace abounded more!”  As Christmas is right around the corner, may it be an encouragement to you to thank God for His unspeakable gift, as well as a motivation to love unconditionally as He did!

The apostle Paul made the point that we should remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that it is more blessed to give than it is to receive (see Acts 20:35).

  • Have you thought about how you might intentionally inculcate this principle in your children?
  • What things challenge you not to do so?
  • Suggest two or three ways you may model Christlikeness in your family with particular regard to giving.
  • Join the conversation; I’d love to hear from you!
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Blog 20141204 It’s Apparent … You’re a Grandparent!

Early Tuesday morning last week, our fourth grandchild was born, Jeremy Ian Fetterolf! What memories that brought back to me, and yet I realized there were sure a lot of things I didn’t remember.

As I visited with our daughter, Candice, and her husband Ben, and sons JD and Jeremy, I was reminded by her how much babies glean from being close to their parents, or others for that matter. Although that reality was undoubtedly practiced on her when she was an infant, I had forgotten that specific statement. I did remember, though, how much of our parenting was based on James 1:5, which says, “if any of you lack wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”​ What a blessing to have memorized that verse in my early years, but what an even greater blessing it was to put it into parenting practice!

I encourage you, no matter what stage you are in the parenting process, from being one with no children, to being one with grandchildren, keep using that free gift of wisdom that God wants to supply. He never runs out, and it will always help!

James 3: 17 reads: “But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.”

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Blog 20141128 It’s apparent … We have much for which to be thankful!

It’s apparent … we have much for which to be thankful!  Many times, in the middle of discipline, discussions, or decisions which need to be made that surround our children, we can become discouraged in the process of parenting. Please be reminded—and be thankful—for the privilege of being a mentor and a discipler, rather than being discouraged with the task.

God has said that we will reap if we faint not! I encourage you to continue to be thankful that you have the opportunity of rearing a disciple for Jesus Christ! That will change all perspectives as you reflect and become re-energized with that wonderful opportunity of bringing up children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord!

Think about and discuss this:

  • Consider the words of Psalm 145:4, which promise that “One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.”
  • Had you thought of it as being a privilege to be a part of the continuum of God’s work in raising godly children in order that they, too, might raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord?
  • Join the conversation; I’d love to hear from you!
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Blog 20141110 It’s Apparent … God’s Word reaches across the miles!

My wife and I were privileged to be on a mission trip to Lebanon from Oct. 14-28.   The primary reason for the trip was the teach Cross-Cultural Counseling to students pursuing their Master’s Degree in Biblical Counseling in the Evangelical Training Center in Dhour Chouer, east of Beirut.  While there, I was able to interact with a group of 12 couples whose goal was specifically to discuss parenting, and it was a joy to interact with these dear brothers and sisters in Christ as they encounter the same issues we do on this side of the ocean.

During the question and answer time, one dad asked how he could be more alert to the needs of his children.  One key thought has helped me with that through the years and that is to treat parenting as a hobby.  We all know that what our passions keep us alerted to what is taking place around us, and no matter what, we keep going back to our hobbies.  We are able to focus on work, or other responsibilities, but we typically are able to fit our hobbies in somewhere.  Parenting, although not really a hobby, if always sought as one, takes on a real determined effort, and typically, one is able to not only consider, but follow through, with making it a priority without effort.

God wants us to do “all things heartily as unto him,” so intentional parenting, and “fitting” in concentrated efforts no matter what, is a wonderful way to accomplish this “hearty” endeavor!

May the Lord bless you as you faithfully serve Him in your “hobby!”

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Blog 20141024 It’s apparent . . . We must continually be reminded of God’s truths

The child Samuel was born as an answer to his mother’s prayer.  She wanted a child so badly, and up to the time of her petition she had not become pregnant.  God, in His kindness, blessed her with a son, Samuel.  When he was very young, she took him back to the Temple to live and serve with Eli, the priest.

Unfortunately, the priest and his sons were not wholesome, and either allowed or lived in sin.  Imagine growing up under those circumstances!

Samuel was distanced from his parents, and was among those who thought sinful choices were not going against a Holy God.  Although he did not have a good influence in his life during this time, he did have God’s truth embedded in his heart—embedded in the very core of who he was. Therefore, this truth was able to propel him in what he did.

It was through all of the circumstances that came his way that Samuel was molded and shaped into the man God wanted him to be.  It was not that he was kept from wrong or that he had a wonderful upbringing that made him the man that God used in the Old Testament; rather, it was the obstacles and difficulties  that he lived above that made him a man able to lead, to counsel, and to direct a nation for God’s kingdom use.

Always consider God’s truths as the resource and reason for holy living, not the influences and lifestyles around you.  A person may not have the proper influences on him or observe correct behavior, yet through God’s truths, he can live for His glory, just like Samuel did!

  • Are you endeavoring to nurture your children in a God-fearing, Christ-exalting, right-living environment?
  • Suggest the one most significant area of vulnerability that your children may be exposed to.
  • Distanced from his parents, it is remarkable that Samuel grew up fearing the Lord. Does this encourage you, as much as you strive to be a good parent, to know that God is able to overrule matters when you mess up?
  • What can you do to build a consistently biblically informed values system into your children’s lives?
  • Join the conversation; I’d love to hear from you!
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Blog 20141017 It’s Apparent . . . We need to serve the Lord with gladness

Customer service is wonderful when it really is a service.

When you are perhaps in a departmental store and you look for customer satisfaction—and it is not provided—doesn’t it make you feel that the customer service department is really not wanting customer satisfaction?

We should consider the same principle when we think of serving God.  Teaching children to obey does not only mean their willful follow-through when they are given a chore;  fulfilling a chore while grumbling is not true obedience.

The same holds true for serving God.  We need to instill in our children, patterned and modeled by our lives, that fulfilling God’s will and way must continue to be that of joy in the service, not joy when the service concludes.

I would encourage you to live to God’s glory. The paramount way to do this is to serve Him with gladness! The Psalmist David exhorts us to do just this in Psalm 100:2.

  • Think of three areas in which you serve the Lord. Describe (only to yourself) your heartfelt attitude in them.
  • What adjustments might you need to think of making to your attitude?
  • How do you encourage serving God with gladness?
  • What strategies might you need to implement in order to intentionally cultivate in your children this kind of mindset?
  • Join the conversation; I’d love to hear from you!
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Blog 20141010 It’s Apparent . . . We all need to make right choices

We are all given opportunities to choose, whether it be what type of ice cream flavor we might desire for desert, or whether we obey the laws of the land.  And, based on those choices, we all experience the consequences from those choices.  If we choose our favorite flavor of ice cream, then we thoroughly enjoy that dessert, but if we don’t make a favorite selection, then we are stuck with either the consequence of no ice cream, or a flavor we don’t like.

When it comes to choosing to do right or wrong, the choice for doing right brings a reward or blessing, while the choice to do wrong brings judgment or discipline.  Many times people wonder why they end up with unfulfilled expectations, and yet they continue to shirk God and His law and His way.  They are simply experiencing their consequences based on their choices.  Too often, people think consequences are bad—yet they are simply from God’s Word. The principle remains: “You reap what you sow” (see Galatians 6:7).  Doing right brings God’s blessing!

The reward for seeking God is finding Him!  Seek Him, and you’ll be rewarded by finding Him. Jeremiah, the Old Testament prophet, made this point powerfully in his book—see  29:13. By not seeking Him, the consequence is such that you won’t find Him, and in turn, you will live and experience matters accordingly.

  • What steps are you taking to taking, or do you need to take, to calibrate your lifestyle and values with Scripture?
  • What steps are you taking to continue to “put off the old and put on the new”?
  • Suggest two or three things you may intentionally do to demonstrate these priorities to your children. What is the most challenging aspect of this?
  • Join the conversation; I’d love to hear from you!
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Blog 20141003 It’s Apparent . . . We need to build on the right foundation!

Rearing children will be one of the most difficult efforts—yet one of the most rewarding efforts—you will ever be involved in!

As you do this, your foundation for rearing them will come under greater and greater scrutiny, and you will find this to be a tremendous base that you will go back to over and over again.

God’s Word, the Bible, is the most sure and certain foundation on which to build your family. And God’s ways—as He rules over your life and your family’s life from day to day and moment to moment—will prove a most wonderful witness to you as you endeavor to walk obediently in fellowship with Him through the challenging maze of life’s circumstances.

The Psalmist made a strong connection between God’s Word on the one hand, and, on the other hand, the progress he was making along life’s pathway. This is what he wrote:

Your word is a lamp to my feet,  and a light to my path.  (Psalm 119:105)

Of course, to navigate through life in light of the wisdom of the Word, it is vital to first be founded on the truth and teaching of that Word. That is one reason why it is so critical to always consider God’s Word and God’s ways as you make continual strides in rearing your child for His glory!

  • What plans or strategies do you have for first exposing yourself to His Word? What does this mean to you in terms of (a) basic Bible reading, (b) closer and more detailed study of the Bible, (c) committing Bible verses to memory?
  • What things will most likely hinder or prevent you from reading the Bible?
  • How do you deal with distractions that would keep you from heeding God’s Word?
  • How have you found that keeping God’s Word at your forefront helps you?
  • Join the conversation; I’d love to hear from you!
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